(Picture Credit - Rolf Harris Guilty by Pickeringpost com)
Jimmy
Saville and now Rolf Harris. Hundreds of people arrested for viewing child
pornography online. Paedophilia is very much in the news.
Whenever Paedophilia is mentioned anywhere, the
cries go out: “They want castrating! Jail them for life!” And so on. This
“topic” is often in the news and debated hotly.
But let’s try to analyse this phenomenon coolly and rationally. My take on a paedophile is that it is someone who is turned on sexually by “children”. Well that’s the start of it anyway. How weird. I mean, what makes a woman attractive is that she is at least going through puberty, to develop breasts etc. And men would be attractive once their shoulders broaden etc. I guess.
I do not see anything sexually stimulating about
pre-pubescent kids. They can be a good laugh and they can be brats, but that’s
all. So I have to say I cannot relate to paedophilia at all. As I say, weird.
While I’m at it I cannot relate to homosexuality
either. However, I understand that’s essentially something between consenting
adults. Good luck to them. Whatever turns you on, as they say.
However, I hear that some paedophile activity
incorporates (pardon the pun) sadism, bondage and who knows what else. At best
there seems to be nothing in it for the kids. Hard to see how children can be
consenting partners in these activities.
So paedophilia ranges from plain wrong to horrific.
However, I am rather puzzled about all this fuss about computer images. I get
the impression that a nosy journalist seeking a headline story might get
arrested for chancing on some picture. A teacher I knew got jailed for having
images on his computer or something. He was so caring of his pupils so this was
hard to swallow at the time.
Okay so images getting views keeps that “industry”
going. But the odd view to see what all the fuss is about? I will not risk it
myself. I have an imagination. But others might.
The other thing that troubles me is that grey area where teenagers are the “victims”. I know of a 28 year old girl who gave in to the advances of a 15 year old lad in her charge (as a teacher’s aide). She is now in jail I believe. She was slagged off by the judge as being a predatory paedophile with evil intent etc. I just saw her as immature and confused.
One girl at 12 can be a mother, another at 20 can
still be very much a child. That’s why I think the law is an ass with this 16
year “childhood” limit. When is a child not a child? When is he or she an
adult? Sorry but 16 does not cut it. Maturity (enough to be able to consent to
sex “effectively”) may be achieved at almost any time. Wonder how many adults
consent to sex and then wish they hadn’t. Interesting that you can marry
at 16 with the permission of your parents.
I know a couple who “got together” as teacher and
pupil and married at the “right time”. All worked out well. But was their
initial liaison an act of paedophilia? (Still can’t spell the damn word lol).
Chuck Berry and other celebrities have of course got
into hot water over relationships with “minors”. Say no more.
So, proper paedophilia (fancying and having sexual
relations with pre-pubescents) is both weird and gross. It no doubt damages
many young lives. To me, relationships with teenagers are more of a grey area.
Are they all children? Is it condescending to label them all children under 16?
Six hundred and odd words cannot do this subject
justice of course. It is a complex issue. I hope I’ve got you thinking. Even if
it’s only a start.
Paul
Butters
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PB 18\7\2014 in Yorkshire.